well....it sort of makes sense
Dec. 21st, 2004 02:12 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
hollybrookeYou know, I just love it when Mom's out of the house, and Dad's around, and the three of us bitch about her.
Here's what went down now. Of course, Mom had her little bitchfest about Cosette's latest form of communication with us (the card and picture of JR's headstone), and she bitched about it to Dad. The main thing Mom bitched about was the fact that his name was put down as "JR Helms" on his headstone when he wasn't even a Helms, he was a Kors, and using his mother's maiden name as his given last name was just bastardizing him. As for me, I was just pissed that that was all we got from Cosette for Christmas: "Oh, gee, thanks for the picture of JR's headstone, Grandma Cozie, just what we wanted for Christmas. You missed both MY birthday and Hunter's, this just makes up for EVERYTHING. Thanks a whole fucking lot." But I can understand why Cosette put JR's last name down as Helms. Considering that JR's asshole of a father was never around for him growing up and Cosette was pretty much a parent to him anyway, he was more a Helms than a Kors. He was in OUR family, not THEIRS. However, to me, this was just her further rubbing her nose in the fact that she loved him more than ANY of her kids and grandkids.
Anyway, Mom and Grandma Julie had to go to my great uncle's funeral today (I barely knew him, or else I would have went with). So when she was gone and when Dad got home, he let into us about this shit. First of all, I guess Cosette is sending the whole family a check around DAD'S birthday (January 27th). Why she's doing this, I have no clue. It doesn't make me feel much better, but oh well. I'm not a greedy person; I'm just a person who thinks she is very inconsiderate. The conversation just turned into how unpleasant of a person Mom is and how inconsiderate she conversely is. And I ended up finding out some shit that I probably didn't need to know about. According to Dad, he and Mom agreed to wait five years after they got married before they had kids because they wanted to see if the marriage would work out (mainly because the divorce rate was still high 25 years ago). Three months later, Mom quits taking the pill and nine months after THAT, I was born. Dad didn't mean to say this to upset me or anything (and it doesn't, really) because he loves both me and Hunter...it's just Mom didn't think. And Mom's never really had to work much in her whole life. Yeah, she tells stories to me and Hunter about how she used to work the registers at restaurants and how she worked at the golf ball factory, but Dad says, "It's not like she was there for very long, maybe a few months at a time." And yeah, that's true. Mom was pretty much a stay-at-home mother when I was a kid. I rarely remember her having a job, maybe when I was really young and she'd hire a babysitter. So Dad's pissed right now because Mom has really no concept of what it's like to hold a job and really have to work. I could go MUCH more into detail about what we all bitched about, but I really don't want to. I'm just more pissed to even think that my mom would be the type of woman to get knocked up to keep her man around. That makes me feel dirty.
Anyway, got my hair cut today. I didn't get much cut--just two inches trimmed and layered. It was a hell of a wait, though. Everyone brought their kids today to the hair salon. I came home from my haircut, Mom looks at me and goes, "It doesn't look like you got much done for twelve bucks." (That was the special.) Well screw her.
I'm getting sick of it all, I tell you.
Here's what went down now. Of course, Mom had her little bitchfest about Cosette's latest form of communication with us (the card and picture of JR's headstone), and she bitched about it to Dad. The main thing Mom bitched about was the fact that his name was put down as "JR Helms" on his headstone when he wasn't even a Helms, he was a Kors, and using his mother's maiden name as his given last name was just bastardizing him. As for me, I was just pissed that that was all we got from Cosette for Christmas: "Oh, gee, thanks for the picture of JR's headstone, Grandma Cozie, just what we wanted for Christmas. You missed both MY birthday and Hunter's, this just makes up for EVERYTHING. Thanks a whole fucking lot." But I can understand why Cosette put JR's last name down as Helms. Considering that JR's asshole of a father was never around for him growing up and Cosette was pretty much a parent to him anyway, he was more a Helms than a Kors. He was in OUR family, not THEIRS. However, to me, this was just her further rubbing her nose in the fact that she loved him more than ANY of her kids and grandkids.
Anyway, Mom and Grandma Julie had to go to my great uncle's funeral today (I barely knew him, or else I would have went with). So when she was gone and when Dad got home, he let into us about this shit. First of all, I guess Cosette is sending the whole family a check around DAD'S birthday (January 27th). Why she's doing this, I have no clue. It doesn't make me feel much better, but oh well. I'm not a greedy person; I'm just a person who thinks she is very inconsiderate. The conversation just turned into how unpleasant of a person Mom is and how inconsiderate she conversely is. And I ended up finding out some shit that I probably didn't need to know about. According to Dad, he and Mom agreed to wait five years after they got married before they had kids because they wanted to see if the marriage would work out (mainly because the divorce rate was still high 25 years ago). Three months later, Mom quits taking the pill and nine months after THAT, I was born. Dad didn't mean to say this to upset me or anything (and it doesn't, really) because he loves both me and Hunter...it's just Mom didn't think. And Mom's never really had to work much in her whole life. Yeah, she tells stories to me and Hunter about how she used to work the registers at restaurants and how she worked at the golf ball factory, but Dad says, "It's not like she was there for very long, maybe a few months at a time." And yeah, that's true. Mom was pretty much a stay-at-home mother when I was a kid. I rarely remember her having a job, maybe when I was really young and she'd hire a babysitter. So Dad's pissed right now because Mom has really no concept of what it's like to hold a job and really have to work. I could go MUCH more into detail about what we all bitched about, but I really don't want to. I'm just more pissed to even think that my mom would be the type of woman to get knocked up to keep her man around. That makes me feel dirty.
Anyway, got my hair cut today. I didn't get much cut--just two inches trimmed and layered. It was a hell of a wait, though. Everyone brought their kids today to the hair salon. I came home from my haircut, Mom looks at me and goes, "It doesn't look like you got much done for twelve bucks." (That was the special.) Well screw her.
I'm getting sick of it all, I tell you.
