
So Mom hasn't been feeling very well lately. She says she feels weak, and she feels she's on the verge of another attack. (I think these are veiled threats that she thinks we aren't pulling our share around the house, when in reality, Hunter, Dad and I are ALWAYS AT WORK.) Dad gave her a verbal smackdown last week that if she needs or wants anything done, she has to open up her mouth and ask one of us. He doesn't want to see her getting up to do anything that's an inconvenience; however, we're not going to know if something needs to be done if she doesn't say something.
You get where I'm going with this?
Okay. I'm 27 years old. I'm an adult. I'm perfectly capable of preparing my own food. Maybe an hour ago, Mom calls from the kitchen and asks if I want a BLT because she just got done making some bacon. She's the one who asked if I was ready for lunch, and she was the one who offered. I said yes, and I came out of my room for a BLT.
She starts muttering under her breath...audible enough for me and Dad to hear..."Her mother's disabled and she's perfectly capable of making her own food, but makes her mother serve her anyway."
Seriously.....WTF?!!!!!
I got pissed and told her if she really felt that way, I wasn't hungry and didn't need a sandwich. Then Dad started laying into her, "Why the hell did you do that?! Why bother making the food and asking Holly if she wanted one if you were just going to say something like that?!" Hunter heard and told Dad that she frequently does stuff like this. Then Dad told Mom that this is why people think she's a giant bitch and don't have much sympathy and compassion for her like they used to.
Oh yeah. Dad let Mom have it. And she had NOTHING to fight back with because she knows Dad's right. But did she apologize to me for what she said/did? HELL no. She never feels she has to apologize for hurting people's feelings; she has MS and has enough problems of her own to care about what she says or does to hurt anyone else. She uses this disease as her scapegoat for being incredibly mean and hurtful to people. I'm tired of it, Hunter's tired of it, Dad's DEFINITELY tired of it.